I’ve never really bought into the Maiden/Mother/Crone model of womanhood that’s so popular in neopagan spaces
and in fact I think it has some serious issues that need to be unpacked but I have to admit, as I’m transitioning from my early-twenties to my mid-twenties, it’s like someone has flipped a switch in my brain and suddenly I care about stuff like my house being clean and smelling good and my loved ones having good food to eat.
Honestly, it’s probably just me healing from the trauma of growing up in a misogynist cult, because like… I had such disdain for housework when I was constantly being told that 1.) being a housewife and mother was my only option as a Mormon woman, and 2.) domestic work was inherently less valuable than “men’s work,” which was why women did it. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned to appreciate the caretaking aspect of domestic labor. Keeping a house running is work, but it’s a role that is fundamental to the safety, comfort, and emotional stability of the people who live there. To be a homemaker is to be the creator and protector of a safe haven, a nurturer. And I’m realizing that it’s a very honorable and valuable thing in its own right.
Anyways, it’s finally setting in that I’m going to be my family’s matriarch someday, but that’s okay because I actually really enjoy doing housewife shit when I’m doing it in a queer, witchy, pagan way.
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